By Mariah McBride
When you think about Valentine’s Day, what comes to mind? Some would say love, gifts, and chocolate. Others may think of the colors red, pink, and white. Lastly, many will think about their boyfriends, girlfriends, or friends in general. All of those answers are great, but why do we often leave ourselves from that list? Valentine’s Day is seen as an opportunity to spend time with someone you love, whether it’s a significant other or your best friends; however, it could be an opportunity to show love to another person. And that person is you. In no specific order, here are five ways to be your own Valentine this holiday.
1. Treat yourself to a gift.
Okay, who knows you the best? I promise it’s not a trick question. I know there is something you have been wanting to buy, or somewhere you have been wanting to go for the longest time. So use Valentine’s Day as that chance to treat yourself, especially if you have been working hard lately. Even if you feel like you haven’t been working as hard, use this gift as an opportunity to encourage yourself to get back on the right path.
2. Spend time alone.
Yes, you read that correctly. Spend time alone. I know some people would say this is a social holiday, but I would argue that it’s a holiday to spend time with someone you care about. There are no rules to this day; therefore, that person you care about is allowed to be you. It’s time to make a reservation for one, visit that library you love, or watch those shows you fell behind on. This time is all about you doing what you like to do. Enjoy it in whatever way you like.
3. Take care of yourself.
Let’s be honest, Valentine’s Day is the perfect day to try out the new face mask you have been putting off using because you haven’t had the time. It’s also the perfect day to put those pretty bath bombs to work. Or to go to that weights class you miss every week. Our physical health is important, so why not work out and have a mini spa day afterwards?
4. Take a break from social media.
Often – because of social media – we start comparing our lives against our friends, acquaintances, and even strangers. Especially on a day like Valentine’s Day, it is easy to catch us saying, “Oh, they’re perfect and so in love; I wish I had that.” This is why I suggest you log out for that day or restrict your hours online. Besides, this will give you more time to do something you enjoy.
Lastly, journal about the things you did for yourself and how they made you feel. Journaling will allow you to look back on this day a year from now, or many years from now, and realize that you have the power to make yourself happy if you are single again. Let that journal entry in your phone or favorite notebook be a constant reminder that it’s okay to be alone and show yourself a good time.