Why We Should Abandon College Dating

By Mea Donnelly

College is a tricky time for everyone. People are torn between wanting to date around and wanting to meet their person. What happens is this weird hodgepodge of actions in which people like each other, but not really. There are butterflies and they want to go on and see this person 24/7, but they can’t at the same time. It’s hard to explain, but it is why modern dating frankly sucks. We are made to believe that we shouldn’t show interest in someone, because if we show just a little too much interest in the person we want, they won’t return the feelings. But on the other hand, if not

It’s hard to explain, but it is why modern dating frankly sucks. We are made to believe that we shouldn’t show interest in someone, because if we show just a little too much interest in the person we want, they won’t return the feelings. But on the other hand, if not enough emotions are shown, then it all becomes a sad story of unrequited love where everyone other than Billy and Suzie knows that they like each other, except Billy and Suzie.

So what is a person to do? Honestly, I think that people should just abandon this idea. Dating was never like this in the past. If Billy liked Suzie, he would ask her on a date, not to hang out. Nobody would wait a specific amount of time to call someone back—okay, maybe the three days rule in the early 2000s, but I am talking about a time when dating truly wasn’t dead.

People were upfront and honest with their intentions. Girls and guys turned down whoever they didn’t like, and then went for the person that truly gave them the feels. There were no politics or games. Humans just connected and bonded, and it honestly sucks that us millennials, or generation Z’ers, don’t get these simple pleasures.

Just be yourself and be blunt. Tell the guy you like that you have feelings for him, or tell that cute girl in your chemistry class that you want to take her on a date. Worst case scenario is you get rejected. Better to know sooner and devote less time to that person than regret what could have been.